"new 25gl trees should be culled?"
Yes, I would stick with my comment to take the fruit off, at least the first year in the ground. 2nd year in ground, eh? debatable.
I never water or hardly ever fertilize my mango. I get plenty of fruit off them. Basically mango are self sufficient trees and grow like weeds without human intervention.
When you water them and fertilize them yes you speed them up growth wise. But, that is not what you want, at least I don't want. I want the trees to stay small, grow slowly, and produce fruit.
This is just my opinion. I could be wrong and people disagree with me. That is fine. But, "tough love" for mango is true for me. Just pruning to allow full sun exposure is best. Mango rarely fruit in shade and the tree will shade itself in due time. Thus, cut the center out once or twice a year so sunshine can reach the entire canopy. Plus, keeping the tree short so you can pick the fruit easier.