Well, Murphy's Law - got a nice email from the folks at Medical Genomics this morning, shortly after I posted the first question!
Short answer -
If the DNA of a particular species has been sequenced, and some samples of known males and females can be provided, they could develop a test for that particular species.
But horticulture is like pharmaceuticals, labs go where the dollars are. So if a hobby grower hits the lottery and pays to have the DNA of marula and bush butter sequenced, then pays to have the test developed, then "woo hoo!".
Oh well. It was a nice dream while it lasted.
Carolyn