I had a few plants I purchased from various nurseries that I lost years after I've bought them - usually they break off at the graft joint when they get top heavy
I think my experience would fall under:
F. Symptoms of incompatibility
1. Low % take
2. Clean break at the graft union.
As described above, the 12 year old, extremely delayed, incompatible graft union between a red maple cultivar and a seedling of the same species exhibited a smooth surface at the point of separation between stock and scion, except the approx. 1 inch diameter central cylinder, which splintered. Apparently, stock and scion were compatible for the first few years after the graft was made, so that xylem (wood) bridged the gap only during that period. Later, after the delayed incompatibility set in, no further bridging xylem formed, so that smooth stock and scion surfaces were in contact but not anatomically joined, resulting in a "clean break" at the graft union
This splintered, not smooth, break just below the graft union between an apple fruiting variety grafted onto an M9 rootstock, snapped off due to an excessively heavy fruit load. This was a result not of incompatibility but rather the short wood fiber cells typical of this dwarfing stock, which tend to make it "brittle".
https://courses.cit.cornell.edu/hort494/mg/specific.grafting/compatibility.html