As I understand, durian likes to have a big tap root. Probably why in pots it won't do as well as in the ground. Zibethinus also gets quite large before it fruits I believe.
Best chance of fruit + flavor I think will be the zibethinus x graveolens cross.
Another idea is using different rootstocks to try to control phyto. Biggest problem that I see is just access to all these species in the US. I think this is really what is preventing major development in getting durian to fruit in sub-tropical climates.
Why don't we extend the contest to all of the continental US? Aren't some others in California trying?