To your questions regarding growing....
U can feed them quite a bit, they are not verry sensitive to ferts in my experience, just follow the rates on the fert u will use. I kinda neglected mine this year and havent fertilized them at all ,they are growing nicely thought ,in pots.
The trunk should be ok, it grows proportionally with the rest of the plant ,it should thicken up when u put it outside and it starts growing strong in the sun.dunno what is going on with the leaves though, it looks like u may have a pest of some sort, the curved inward way they look it not normal, it may be from the light also....
For the repotting, u should repot it only if you see alot of roots around the perrimeter of the soil or down at the drainage holes. You will know that it needs repotting when u have to water it every day like i did last year. I usually check for the need of repotting by taking the plant out of the pot and inspecting the roots, dunno if thats possiblein your case and its also kinda dangerous since if not the soil around the roots could just collapse, so be warned !