I would also love to hear of anyone who's really pushed the limits enough with those side by side to compare their damage/kill temperature at various sizes of tree. I don't think anyone should trust any nursery claims, though.
I had Joey grafted on a Hass seedling (graft buried 4") over the winter of 2021/2022, when we had a 6-day freeze (highs in mid 20s to low 30s, lows in low 20s with one night at 16°F briefly). The one year old graft defoliated but the stems showed only minimal damage and the dormant buds looked alive. 3 months later, the graft suddenly died as it began budding out, and when I dug down it looked like the rootstock had been dead for months, probably killed in that freeze and the graft took a few months to realize it had lost its roots.
My Fantastic graft runted out this year, so I'll be ordering another bundle of scionwood from Fruitwood this winter and trying a few more next year. So I've got no idea of hardiness for that one.
I grafted and rooted "Opal" this year, which some people have said is the same cultivar as "Lila," but I have no idea if that's been confirmed. The graft is on an outdoor tree, so I'll have an idea of its hardiness soon enough.
As for other cultivars, a first-year graft of Poncho made it through 17°F this last winter with zero leaf/stem/bud damage, protected only with an upside down flower pot on the coldest few nights.
Northrup made it through alive above the graft with no real protection at all, just a lawn chair on the north side. Significant stem damage and complete defoliation, but re-grew well this year.
Aravaipa was grafted high on a Zutano seedling, and even though Aravaipa showed no leaf or other damage from 17°F with just a plastic bucket over it, the rootstock was completely killed and the graft failed to grow in spring, suddenly wilting when I'd expect budding out.
This winter I have Aravaipa outside on its own roots to test it better, as well as grafts of Ganter and Magdalena. Along with the dozens of seedlings in the breeding project, that is.