Good news, I am allowed to bring in "experts" to evaluate the tree's stability (main branch growing sideways, some signs of termite...) I will fight for trimming the tree to a more manageable size. Should have done that in the spring when we trimmed it, but at the time it looked like the tree lost so much already...
Question: I'd try to keep the tree at a fixed size (e.g. 15 feet) by removing some branches every year, obviously it already developed a much bigger root system. Will it revenge by always focusing on vegetative growth and never settle for fruits?
@Scott Thank you soooooo much!
@Ed Our trees rarely get commercial fertilizers. A bit of horse manure sometimes...